What many women don't actually realize is that it's very easy to accidentally sabotage your relationship — you don’t really need to hack into your partner’s email or boil his pet rabbit to raise a red flag.
Rather, by simply doing one of the following will more than do the trick very fast:
1. The Ball Buster
The typical “Ball Buster” seeks control of the relationship by putting her man in his place … repeatedly. She views herself as a “problem-solver.” Though she has noble intentions "sometimes", constantly telling her man his way is the wrong way isn’t so much noble as it is infuriatingly annoying. By trying to control him, she undermines his thoughts, wishes, and, perhaps most importantly … his sense of competence. All of this robs him of something each man holds near and dear: his masculinity.
“The Love Vixen” is a charmer, forever able to draw men into her waiting arms. She does this by defining herself with her sexuality. In other words, she controls her mate with sex. The reason this sabotages a relationship is because she’s essentially manipulating and blackmailing her partner — if he wants sex, he must do what “The Love Vixen” wants.
And, it’s safe to say: Any relationship based on blackmail probably won’t remain successful for long.3. The Mother
"The Mother" does exactly what it sounds like — she mothers her partner.
She dotes on him, she fusses and worries, she believes he can do no wrong, perhaps she even picks out a sailor suit and knee socks for him to wear on the first day at his new job. She also preoccupies herself with the emotional barometer of the relationship.
This might sound healthy, but it’s actually not.
The “Mother” puts all the relationship (all the joys, all the sorrows, all the ups and downs) — on her back. She puts pressure on herself and herself alone; it’s her duty to make the relationship work. She’s constantly wondering how he’s feeling, where she stands, and whether he is okay and what she can do to fix it. The problem with this role is two-fold. First, a girlfriend or wife who acts like a man’s mother will lead him to rebel.
After all, that’s what children do. Second, it’s unfair for a woman to baby a grown man! She might not mind it initially, but it’ll only lead to resentment down the line.
4. The Damsel in Distress
The concept of “The Damsel in Distress” is simple: Boy meets girl, boy rescues girl, boy, and girl lives happily ever after.
It may sound romantic, easy and productive, but it only works for a little while. In the long run, a damsel can’t always be in distress (unless she stars in several Lifetime Movies) and the man can’t always act as the hero. It’s too exhausting — and unrealistic — on both fronts. In the end the man ends up resenting her for her incompetence.
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